oho, sitting in my second coffee shop of the day, letting the scent of espresso seep ever deeper into my hair. I read this article a second ago on the HuffPost about “Women Against Feminism” and I’m going to try really hard not to sound like a man-hating crazy person.
Because guess what? Feminists don’t hate men. They don’t think women are better and should burn bras and paint vagina graffitti. Feminists come in every hue, every sexuality, every gender. Of course, there are extremists in every belief system but only someone extremely lacking in intelligence would assume that a small sub-group of people would represent a whole. I’m not saying extreme feminists are wrong at all, I’m just saying that as an outsider looking in, the basic idea of feminism may look distorted because of our society’s tendency to portray it as a poisoness thing and that may cause people to close themselves off to it.
Whenever I talk to someone about feminism I try to break it down into the simplest, core belief, which is, Do you believe that men and women should be treated equally? Because if yes, which most people would say, then you are a feminist. It’s really, honestly, that simple. From that jumping off point you can gather and form your own opinions about sub sects within feminism but overall, you are a feminist! And be fucking proud of it! Even if you have never in your life felt personally vicitimized by your gender, millions of others have. And I know a lot of people argue that as an individual, you have no responsibility towards supporting strangers but personally, I think that that is the single most fucked up thing in the world. Humans should love and support other humans. We cannot go through life thinking only of ourselves or only do something unless it affects us directly. Empathy is so vitally important. It’s what keeps wars from occurring and hate from spreading. In this toxic world we now live in where you can log into a social networking site and be connected to thousands of people and yet still feel completely alone, we have never more needed empathy, love, and human connection to bridge the gap between us.
I was not always a feminist. It wasn’t until I took a class on Gender and Sexualities my freshman year of college that I actually sat down and learned from a book what feminism really was. And I urge everyone, if you can, to please do the same. Just like taking a world politics class or an environmental class, you will emerge a more informed and more well-rounded human being. It’s classes like those that can open your eyes to the cracks beneath the surface. Because humanity has festering wounds beneath it’s shining, chrome surface. Our planet is dying, millions of people still remain oppressed, and women die and are raped every second, simply because of their gender. We may not be able to single-handedly end the world’s suffering, but we can be informed, and inform others. And perhaps one day the world’s women will be treated with the decency and respect they deserve.
ps. please applaud me for never once using the phrase “WHY AREN’T YOU A FEMINIST ARE YOU FUCKING STUPID” not even once